AFter an interesting night with my neighbors, suprise suprise, I ended up not getting here to the NELA Convention until 1pm. I slept in after being woken up at 1am, and not being able to fall back to sleep until the cops showed up and calmed everything down. ( If you really want the story I'll give it).
So I arrive, flash my id, pay the fee, and walk around cause I've got an hour until the first class... I did a little browsing, and found SEVERAL things that I want to buy. PArt of me still wants to go back for that bit gag but I oversplurged a little already on getting a hotel room, cuase im still exhuasted and didn't want to drive back this late just to drive back in the morning. But I did buy the matching cuffs for my ankles ( YAAAY), a new interesting set of clmaps ( for $4), some leather lacing and a ring to play around a bit (I'm going to make something with it just not sure what) some pretty nylon rope, a thisrt from the bullwhip lounge I'll take a picture of me in it tomorrow to put on here Its hot... and definitly not PG.
AND THEN!!! I'm walking around the corner between vendor rooms, and what do I see on the table... but the PERFECT gift for my husband. Sir I am not going to tell you what it is in here so no cheating. I might send you a picture, but then again it might be a better treat for when you come home. I was so excited to find this, it was fairly cheap as far as these things go and it looks gorgeous. TEE HEE HEE I cna't wait until I can show you... Happy Birthday my Sir... Oh I jsut got an even more evil idea.. .nevermind...
So classes yes I went to several...
REading and writing body language- It was very informational, about ways that you can look open, and friendly, ways you show people to back off... how to look more dominant or controlling in a given situation... how to read signals from people in a scene, or in a dungeon, how to ask questions silently so that you don't interrupt... all that kind of stuff, I had a good time it was very enjoyable. How to read the tension in a submissives face, easy ways to convey safewords when you cannot see or speak... Definitions of personal bubbles and space... and how to maintain dynamics in a given situation... I enjoyed it. I did learn that if you have your hand on the part of someoones hari, and can feel their scalp- when they blush, their scalp actually gets warmer.
The Introduction to Master Slave relationships was a very interesting class. It wasn't necessarily a bad class, I was jsut not in agreement of how they present what a Master/ Slave relationship was in reference to Dom/Sub relationships. I totally agree that a relationship, and M/s, D/s, Daddy/ girlor boy Mommy / girl or boy trainor/pony etc... that they are all what the mean to the people involved in the relationship. What I didn't agree with whas that the class definitons made it out that a Dominant/ Submissive relationship had absolutely NOTHING to do with Mater/slave relationships. It is my belief that a Master Slave relationships is a deeper, more refined, defined and explicit version of a Dominant/ Submissive relationship. Jsut like a pony and their owner, a Daddy and his girl, etc... not that they aren't mutually exclusive... I made a few friends in that class. One is a woman that had been doing some oneline exploration. And a few of her questions set off red flags for me big time. Like a "master" that she met that agreed to her safeword and then renigged it on her. And the only thing she could do was crawl tot he hotel door to get out. SoI offered her my email addres if she ever wanted to chat or talk or discuss or anything. And come to find out, she lives relatively close to me, so I'm excited. And i hope she'll email me. She was there with another couple and We switched emails too...
One thing I did realize... I think part of why we had so many problems before was becuase I felt badly damaged and hurt from things that had happened between us in the past. And that was why I was having such a difficult time. With what I happened I was hurt, and it stopped me from being able to trust you the way I need to for our relationship. ( And yes I realize this is partly going back to what had been going on) Now that I realize that, I know what we need to work on to get past all of the crap. We both fucked up in the past. And I am only looking towards our future. I love you Sir.
Then came the back to back rope classes. OMG so much fun, I can make three difference kinds of cuffs, a few different ties, a chest harness and I learned to do a karata I think thats what its called. I learned some about the history of Shibari... like it started off as Hojojutsu, which is what they called the samauri art of binding a captive. And it was created intentionally that if someone struggled or tried to escape... they would hurt themselve or make themselves pass out. Did you know that by looking at how someone was tied you could tell who caught them, what their rank was, if they had commited a crime, what that was and what thir punishment was going to be. I also learned that polypropeline ropes ( that cost 1.40 a foot) look and act like more natural fibers, but washes and has similar care to a artificial fiber rope.
(( And as I write this I can hear someone in the next room over getting a beating... Damn... I'm getting jealous... I'm totally sleeping in my cuffs.))
I met a couple in the class and they were really nice, they let me practice my ties on them, and then the top/bf tied the two of us togehter ( incredibly simply)It was cute... but the chest harness over her corset, didn't work out so well. In the class we learned about key things to look for when worrid about nerve damages, checking for circulation, and general care. Then we got into the good stuff- how to do funky things, how to use the simple ties we learned to do complicated looking stuff. Like I learned that a hitachi wand on a rope no where near naughty bits... will vibrate strong enoughto cause an orgasm. And yes that was demonstrated. It was awesome.
tomorrow is Communication effectiveness, The bottoming presentation, and the Japanese warfan class... I'll write more tomorrow!
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